Roger HarrisMy Failure
September 22nd 2006 15:40
Now that I think about it, was it really that day that changed my life? I think the wheels were already in motion at that point. So I guess it was changed a few years before that when I first found out about his infidelity? No, more likely it was changed forever a few years before that when we found out we were pregnant and he got an out of state job offer in the same week. I was opposed to moving while pregnant, he said he was going to take the job whether I went with him or not. (I’ve had some really fun pregnant moments).
No, it goes even further back than that, several years before that. My life changed forever when I met my ex husband.
Maybe I should back up a bit, and tell you more about me …. some people seem to think only a certain type of person gets divorce. Somehow by their personality you could predict their inability to be successful at marriage.
I’m one of those people who tend to do well at the things I attempt. I loved school and sports. I was a high school athlete and team captain. I also went to college and participate in sports, finished my degree magna cum laude. I have many hobbies and have always had good friends. I would not call myself a “type A” personality; I’m far from a perfectionist. I take my responsibilities seriously, and don’t believe in blowing things off either.
I graduated college with a degree in Mathematics, Magna Cum Laude. I’m an even keel kind of person, very little gets to me, I see humor in almost everything. I am a distance runner and that mind set carries over to everything in my life – it takes many small steps to get to the end - One foot after the other - Anything worth having is worth working for.
For some time I viewed my divorce as a personal failure. I was embarrassed. The one thing that probably meant the most to me was the one thing I did not succeed at. What happened? How could that be? This is NOT at all what I had planned.
No, it goes even further back than that, several years before that. My life changed forever when I met my ex husband.
Maybe I should back up a bit, and tell you more about me …. some people seem to think only a certain type of person gets divorce. Somehow by their personality you could predict their inability to be successful at marriage.
I’m one of those people who tend to do well at the things I attempt. I loved school and sports. I was a high school athlete and team captain. I also went to college and participate in sports, finished my degree magna cum laude. I have many hobbies and have always had good friends. I would not call myself a “type A” personality; I’m far from a perfectionist. I take my responsibilities seriously, and don’t believe in blowing things off either.
I graduated college with a degree in Mathematics, Magna Cum Laude. I’m an even keel kind of person, very little gets to me, I see humor in almost everything. I am a distance runner and that mind set carries over to everything in my life – it takes many small steps to get to the end - One foot after the other - Anything worth having is worth working for.
For some time I viewed my divorce as a personal failure. I was embarrassed. The one thing that probably meant the most to me was the one thing I did not succeed at. What happened? How could that be? This is NOT at all what I had planned.
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