Roger HarrisAre single moms easy?
September 30th 2006 01:39
Are single mom’s easy…
Well as I reentered the dating world it took me a little while to realize that’s what a lot of men think. Especially younger men. I started online dating and was bombarded with men 10 years younger than men sending me messages. At first I was confused, and slightly flattered. They all said the same thing “I love older women”, “I love the maturity”, “women my age are so insecure”.. blah blah blah. I am NOT attracted to younger men, so I always replied “I understand I love older men”. I really didn’t understand what was going on, but I was not tempted.
After going on a few dates and meeting some single men who were dating I revealed the odd number of younger men who sent me messages, I learned something…. Single mom’s have the reputation of being easy!
A quick search on the internet and you get this explanation:
“Single moms are horny. They need release from their grinding day. They are so busy tending to everyone else that they yearn for someone to take care of them and to pleasure them.
Chances are, they haven't been poked in a long time. Being a single mom, who would have time?
Men also enjoy an easy way out. We enjoy noncommittal type relationships. We know we'll always come in second to their kid(s), which is great. It allows us our "space." Which really means, more time to date other women.
Because they can't demand anything and are open for any and all grown up attention, single moms make the perfect catch for anyone looking for a secretive, casual and intense sexual experience. “
Ack! Call me clueless. I hadn’t realized this whole phenomenon until I because a single mom.
So Single moms, if you aren’t looking for a non committal physical relationship keep that in mind when you start seeing those young studs showing interest!
Now if you are looking for a little physical fun, there are plenty of young studs out there waiting for you . … then again, I’m sure studs of all ages will volunteer for that too – why limit yourself to the young and inexperienced.
Well as I reentered the dating world it took me a little while to realize that’s what a lot of men think. Especially younger men. I started online dating and was bombarded with men 10 years younger than men sending me messages. At first I was confused, and slightly flattered. They all said the same thing “I love older women”, “I love the maturity”, “women my age are so insecure”.. blah blah blah. I am NOT attracted to younger men, so I always replied “I understand I love older men”. I really didn’t understand what was going on, but I was not tempted.
A quick search on the internet and you get this explanation:
“Single moms are horny. They need release from their grinding day. They are so busy tending to everyone else that they yearn for someone to take care of them and to pleasure them.
Chances are, they haven't been poked in a long time. Being a single mom, who would have time?
Men also enjoy an easy way out. We enjoy noncommittal type relationships. We know we'll always come in second to their kid(s), which is great. It allows us our "space." Which really means, more time to date other women.
Because they can't demand anything and are open for any and all grown up attention, single moms make the perfect catch for anyone looking for a secretive, casual and intense sexual experience. “
Ack! Call me clueless. I hadn’t realized this whole phenomenon until I because a single mom.
So Single moms, if you aren’t looking for a non committal physical relationship keep that in mind when you start seeing those young studs showing interest!
Now if you are looking for a little physical fun, there are plenty of young studs out there waiting for you . … then again, I’m sure studs of all ages will volunteer for that too – why limit yourself to the young and inexperienced.
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Comment by ThomasM
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Comment by LauraP
And yes, I was suprised (I guess still am) how little some men thought I would accept because of my single mom status. Luckily, although my divorce did devestate me, I've always had pretty good self esteem.
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Comment by spain01
Juan Carlos
spain again
While your'e about it
Viva l'difference
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Cities dying of thirst.
Alcoholics
Single mums
Single mums with handicapped children.
Single mums over 40
Nurses.
Perhaps we should not publish this.
Comment by Ahmed
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Comment by LauraP
Ahmed, I've actually heard this over and over about single moms. In fact a man recently called in our local radio station with this same opinion. There must be some truth to it - if fact the statement I posted above hits home in a lot of ways.. doesn't mean I'd act on it, but it definitely expresses how I have felt at times!
Comment by Ahmed
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Little Green Foosballs
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People like this shouldn't be allowed to walk on our streets, just who do they think they are looking to exploit people? I thought they had laws against these kinds of behaviours, if they want sex so friggin much why don't they just DIY it instead of look to exploit other people.
Comment by ThomasM
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I grew up reckless and angry....
I said to classmates, friends and lovers alike...I'd be dead by 30...That was the cutoff for me...
Well, I'm gonna turn 40 next February....
So a couple of things obviously have occurred...
1) I stopped killin' myself with substances....nuff said
2) I found a woman who doesn't put up with my bullshit...oh and is HOT...
3) I've decided life mikes more sense living it than the alternative....I'm not obviously the sharpest knife in the drawer...but I still get to play house a few times a week...LOL...if ya know what I mean!!!!
Blogtommy
Comment by spain01
Juan Carlos
spain again
While your'e about it
Viva l'difference
Fire News Blog
Cities dying of thirst.
Thanks for the tolerance in at least canvassing discussion about this issue and not joining Ahmed’s closed mind premature closure group.
This was reported to me by a psychologist who was planning to publish a study on prison rapists. He asked them which groups of females would they consider the most vulnerable. I have little to no experience with relationships with any of these groups myself but I have had wide contact with them from a clinical point of view and it does not surprise me. The issue is one of vulnerability of course. Women should realize that there are times in life when others perceive them to be more vulnerable and at these times making decisions about relationships is ill –advised. How to avoid the tragic pitfalls. That is the interesting question.
Comment by Ahmed
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Little Green Foosballs
PolyKicks
Just go after the single mum, easy sex. Put it however you wan't, that is what it is at the end of the day, don't dare try and sugar coat it.
Comment by Damo
Public scorn may play heavily on their self esteme and create a desperate cycle of bad relationships.
Most singles mother I knew were previously married and have high self esteme. Certainly they can choose to date but that does not necessarily make them easy.
Comment by LauraP
there is also a group of single mothers have high self esteem (Damo also mentions). The group that don’t have a pattern of bad relationships – but ended up single anyway and manage to find a way to handle all their obstacles. It’s quite empowering.
But I will say I was definitely more vulnerable initially. See my post on hurting people. I did make choices I might not have made otherwise. Luckily I didn’t do anything that was destructive or horrible.
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Comment by LauraP
I'm not offended (anymore) because although its a reference to single moms, I know it doesn't apply to me personally. You know?
Comment by Anonymous
It becomes more offensive when you think about a young woman with children who has lost her husband (death). How sad that men go this far, fuck they can be pigs sometimes.
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Comment by Ahmed
Video Gamer Kids
Little Green Foosballs
PolyKicks
THis is about respect, no one seems to have respect for them. What was the point of all the 'equal rights' broobaha if nobody respects them? Is it still that a lot of people view them as little more than sex? Oh yeah, go after this type of woman because they are easier, is that what makes them decide which they want?
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